✨ Bend, Don’t Break: Adaptability as a Superpower
Today, while talking with my coach and dear friend Andrea, she helped me realize something big: I’ve been demanding too much of myself.
I told her, “I need to be free and feel free… and this newsletter is holding me back. It’s become a chore, not a letter from my heart.”
And just like that, everything started to make sense.
Back in April, I broke my knee.
I was stopped—put completely at rest—for five long weeks.
“Don’t you dare put your foot on the ground,” they said.
And I didn’t. Five terrible weeks where even the thought of touching the floor filled me with fear… fear that I could break my leg completely.
So I kept writing this newsletter—because it was the only thing that made me feel connected to who I was before.
But even that started to backfire.
Eventually, I hated it.
I resented the pressure.
Because this newsletter became the only thread tying me to my old self… and I was no longer sure I wanted to be her.
So I asked myself:
Do you want to keep being your old self?
Or do you want to reinvent yourself?
I don’t know the answer.
Maybe I already am. Maybe I’m not.
I honestly don’t know who I was—or who I’m becoming.
But maybe that’s the point.
When you least expect it, life sends a storm—and suddenly, it asks you to adapt.
It doesn’t ask politely. It throws the winds, the rain, the chaos at you… and it hopes you’ve built the strength to bend without breaking.
Is it easy? Of course not.
It’s one of the hardest things we’ll ever be asked to do.
But every meaningful transformation in life begins like this.
The truth is, you are never ready.
The only hope is that the tools you’ve collected—your friendships, your mindset, your inner work—will soften the landing.
Make sure you have good people in your life.
I thought I had a couple of close friends… but people surprised me. I was never truly alone.
My son came to live with me while I couldn’t walk.
And one day, he asked:
“Mama… when will your friends stop coming?”
That filled my heart.
I didn’t tell everyone what had happened.
So if you’re reading this and feel like you were left out—please forgive me. I had so much to carry.
In a way, this letter is for you. To say: I’m okay. I’m here. I didn’t forget you.
I’ve been questioning this newsletter—its purpose, its place in my life.
And I think I finally understand why I keep writing it:
This is where I find my voice.
This is where my thoughts take shape.
This is where I get to be fully myself, even as I figure out who that self is becoming.
If you’ve ever felt lost in change, this is my reminder to you:
🌀 You don’t have to be ready to adapt.
You just need to let go of the idea that you won’t survive it.
💛 Make space for the people who help you bend.
💛 Make time to rest without guilt.
💛 Let go of who you were to make room for who you’re becoming.
And when life brings you lemons… yes, make lemonade. 🍋
But also: learn to withstand the storm.
Gather the tools. Find the people. Nurture your roots.
All the rest is gone with the wind. 😉
💬 What are you adapting to right now? What have you had to let go of?
Hit reply—I’d love to hear from you.